A Little Bit Older - A Whole Lot More Fabulous!

I know folks - I have neglected you all over the last couple of months.

Shatter the Silence has taken over a little, but as we get that to a point where it will tick over without needing to be worked on every day, my focus is shifting back to my fabulous musers and how much I have missed writing something that is all about fun!

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If you aren't, hang your head in shame! (Insert laughing face here...)

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Right, shameless plug over now!

Today, I wanted to talk about being fabulous at 40, (+ a little VAT).

This past week I have managed a catch up with two of my absolute favourite people in the world, one of whom is about to turn 40 in October, and the other who is slowly catching up to me.

(This year I will be 48. Oh, the shame!)

Joking aside, during both catch-ups, the conversation turned to age and it got me thinking, as these things often do.

(For anyone wanting a visual, I am sitting in my office blasting Cyndi Lauper and Girls Just Wanna Have Fun. Honestly, it could not be more appropriate for todays blog!)

We did a little reminiscing, as you do, but honestly? I cannot remember a decade that I have enjoyed more than this one.

My 40's have truly become my age of discovery!

For those of you who are wondering - something strange, unexplainable and magical happens when you hit your 40's.

Believe it or not, it isn't a sudden urge to buy wrinkle cream, write bucket lists or panic over the fact your body is doing its own thing.

What happens can only be described as a quiet rebellion. A shift in your soul. A spark that begins to burn with a fire so fierce that it becomes almost impossible to ignore.

Suddenly, you realise life is actually for living, and that all the surviving and playing by someone else's rules? Absolutely no more!

There is this confidence you didn't know you had that begins to creep in, and one day you suddenly realise - you no longer need to apologise for your very existence.

If people don't accept you as you are, that is not your problem. They just are not part of your tribe - and guess what? That's completely okay.

This is the decade you stop shrinking and staying in the shadows and you begin to take up the space that was always yours to claim.

Your 20's were for figuring things out.

Your 30's were for building those things.

Your 40's? They are all about breaking free - embracing every inch of who you are and thrusting it into the world in an unapologetic and wildly fabulous way!

No longer do you censor what you wear, what you eat or where you go.

You begin to realise that you are fabulous. FULL STOP!

You wear that dress you wouldn't have dared to touch in your 30's.

You book the trip that you always wanted to do and maybe you even do it solo which is even more fabulous!

You say no without feeling guilt.

You say yes to things that you never imagined you ever would and don't worry about the outcome.

There is a sudden rediscovery of all those things you loved as a teenager.

Music, creativity, movement, rest, and the things that truly brought you joy that somehow disappeared in amongst the chaos of having to adult.

All of a sudden the things that feed your soul step back into the limelight and become the main focus again as you begin to remember what true joy feels like.

Your friendship circles might shrink—but the ones who remain? They become family. Fiercely loved and fiercely protected.

You start letting go of what no longer serves you: the job that drains you, the endless online debates (you can’t argue with stupid!), the toxic expectations.

You speak to yourself more kindly. The self-criticism fades. You begin to realise that perfection was never the goal—you were pretty damn amazing all along.

Your body? No longer a battleground.

The laugh lines, the tummy curve, the heavier tread—they’re not flaws. They’re evidence of living. And you learn to love yourself in a way you never thought possible.

Honestly musers, these are the years that the magic returns- wild, soft, bold and unfamiliar.

And if you embrace the change?

I promise you this may just be the best decade of your life!

The biggest lesson I learned was that it was never about chasing perfect.

Its about living fully. Living bravely. Embracing the messy, the beautiful and the imperfect joy of what it is to be human, and fabulous at 40 of course!

Time is not running out - its just finally feeling like its yours.

So musers, here's to your 40's.

Mine might be nearly over but I am damn sure I am not slowing down anytime soon.

This is the age of rediscovery.

The season of becoming.

The decade that you realise everything you are has been patiently waiting inside you, waiting for you to realise just how fabulous you are and own it all.

This is to living - really living, and no longer denying, apologising for or hiding who you are.

Here's to your 40's!

Until next time....